"....and comes up with reasons to talk to you, does that mean he's interested?"

If a guy is going out of his way in general to talk to you, that definitely means he's interested. Especially if he is trying in multiple ways to get your attention or just find a way to talk to you. From what you said it sounds like this boy definitely likes you and isn't trying to hide it.

Way to go girl, good luck!

"Do you reccommend sparknotes?"

Yes, I think sparknotes are great... along with reading the book.

Sparknotes is meant to fill you in on details you may have missed or to help describe characters or plots or vocabulary that was confusing .

I've read ONLY the sparknotes before tests and it has never worked. Never depend on sparknotes, but do use it along with reading the book. It will definitely help you get a better grasp on the book and do well on your test! ( :

"How do you know when you legit like a guy?"

This is different for everyone ha but usually when you always want to be around them, or try to find ways to be with them, or see them, or think everything they say is funny when it's not. Getting nervous or "butterflies" when they're around. Looking forward to seeing them, always wanting to talk to them. Finding reasons to text or call them all the time.

I could go on for days but if you find yourself thinking about them a lot, that's usually the biggest clue.

"How can I avoid future awkwardness if he doesn't like me back?"

I think you have a good idea saying that you liked him at some point recently, that way it's not as direct as saying I like you. This way if for some reason he doesn't like you back you can pull the "I said i did like you, I don't like you as more than a friend now though" card, and just laugh it off. If you laugh it off and don't make it awkward , it won't be awkward.

However this could trigger him to admit he liked/likes you too which is always nice.

Just try not to be too hard on yourself and laugh it off, and if it works out, great!

Good Luck!

"I don't know whether or not I should take him back"

Okay well the first thing with love or relationships, whatever you want to call it, if something is meant to happen, it will happen. So I say not to worry too too much about what is or is not going to happen. Sometimes if you plan things, you'll end up dissapointed if they don't happen exactly as planned.

But from what you've told me it sounds like you two have a really good connection and care a lot about each other. I think that you should give him another chance and hope for the best, and if it doesn't work out, at least you'll know you tried.

Good Luck!

"I want to know if he likes me but I don't want to tell him I like him"

You could always do the classic bring it up in conversation and ask who he likes. This will give you a clue whether or not he likes you, or maybe if he's really confident he'll straight up tell you he likes you. If he answers with "i'm not sure..." in a nervous way or "i'm not telling" or "it's a secret" or something along those lines that usually means he likes you and doesn't want to say it.

On the other hand if he tells you another girl that could be a clue to move on and find someone who really likes you.

You could do this in person, or if that's too hard then through text or online.

If you don't want to do this, then look for clues of him liking you (always texting or calling you, always wanting to be around you, asking to hang out, getting nervous when talking in person, or laughing at almost everything you say).

Good Luck!

"I have this compulsive urge to drive over the speed limit what can i do to control my urge?"

Usually when you have the urge to speed it's because you may be feeling some sort of tension or stress so you take it out on the pedal which causes you to go faster. To prevent this, before you get in the car take a deep breath and then turn on some relaxing music or music that puts you in a good mood. That may help distract you from driving so fast.

If that doesn't work simply just keep reminding yourself it's not worth driving that fast. Tell yourself you won't end up at your destination all that much sooner and you could easily get pulled over at any minute or get in an accident and hurt yourself or someone else.

Try to relax and keep reminding yourself of the awful consequences!

"Why do guys act so different in person?"

This seems to be the case with a lot of high school boys. Suprisingly, guys are shy just like us. Chances are that this guy has interest in you because he talked to you so much but maybe he got nervous when he saw you in school or was around you and wasn't sure what to say.

My suggestion is to start talking to him, that will make him feel more comfortable and he'll hopefully come out of his shell and start talking.

So give him a chance, because most guys are intimidated by girls and aren't sure how or what to say in person.

"Bad week. What are some stress relievers ?"

First thing to do is take a deep breath. Sounds to me like you did have a pretty stressful week. The best thing to do is to just take a minute to relax and think about all of the good things you have going on in your life.

After you've done this try to think of ways to resolve some of your problems.

There's not much you can do about a mean teacher but you can do your best to ignore her and not let her bother you. She probably has a lot going on in her life too. So for math, luckily it's early in the quarter. Make sure you're getting your homework done and if you're just not understanding things then maybe find a peer tutor or call an adult tutor. Even the smartest of kids have tutors when they need help with something. If you're getting your homework done, and learning the material and studying for the tests and quizzes you'll be sure to pass the quarter.

Second problem is you're maybe losing your friend. Whatever the problem may be, be the bigger person and apologize or try to resolve it. Even if she may have done something to upset you, try to get over it and let her know you really care about her and want to be her friend.

The other friend that you want to put in her place, don't. She probably likes the attention she's getting from annoying you so the best thing to do is just ignore her. That will upset her the most because she'll realize she's not worth of your negative attention.

And lastly liking one of your friends doesn't sound like a bad thing ? A lot of times the best relationships are with people who were your friends first. If you don't think it's going to work, try to focus on your friendship with him and keep your mind open to other guys.

Good luck and don't be afraid to ask with anymore questions

Remember to take a deep breath and remember it will all work out !

"Are you a girl or a boy?"

I am a girl haha. That's all I will reveal about myself though ( :

"What do I do if I kind of think I like my best friend but I'm not sure/What do I tell him?"

This is tricky because if you do like him and you tell him things will change. It won't be a bad change it will just be different than what you have now.

The only way to tell if you like a guy is to picture yourself kissing them or something haha to see if it would be weird or not. Because chances are you're telling yourself you like him because he's your good friend and you don't like any other guys so he's an easy pick.

If you really do like him though, and he likes you back you will have an awesome relationship because you already know each other so well and you're such great friends.

Try not to over think things, but if you think you really truly like him then go ahead and tell him.

Good Luck!

"but he's best friends with my ex boyfriend, who fell in love with me. should i be worried?"

This all depends on your feeling towards your ex boyfriend, how recently you two broke up, and if you really truly are only with this guy because you like him and not to make your ex boyfriend jealous.

Put yourself in his position to see how he would feel. But if you really do like this guy (your ex's friend) then go for it. Try your best not to rub it in your ex's face though. It's going to be hard for him no matter what, especially if this is the first he's hearing about it.

The only situation where you should absolutely not date him is if you're only with his best friend to make your ex jealous. It's a natural thing for girls to do. Dating or hanging out with their ex's friends to cause jealous, and for some weird reason it makes us feel better about things. But like I said before, put yourself in your ex's position and consider his feelings.

But if you really do like this guy and are doing it for the right reasons, then go for it. Your ex may get hurt, but everyone gets hurt at some point and he'll be alright. Just make sure you do it in a nice way.

"After he facebook pokes you back what do you do from there?"

Just the fact that he poked you back is a great start. It means he's interested.

You could do two different things.

You could 1) Poke him back, and continue with the poking war until he messages you or comments you or whatever first .

or you could 2) Message him. Say something simple like "hey" or even add a smiley face to be cute. Or you could say anything you want to let him know you're interested.

Whichever one you choose you have nothing to lose because remember he poked you back, so he's definitely interested.

"How do I take it to the next step/see if he's ready to get there?"

First of all, don't worry too much about the age difference. If it's meant to be, age doesn't matter. Also people get married to people of all different ages so 2 years is nothing.

But if he admitted that he likes you then tell him how you feel too. That should trigger some sort of progress. Just admitting that you two like each other is a huge step.

If you are wondering how to take it from there, then keep talking to him and reassuring to him how you feel. Don't rush things though.

Just get to know him better, hang out, see how you two progress from there and things should fall into place.

I know it's hard to just sit back and wait, but sometimes you need to let things happen on their own if they are going to actually work out. Unlike forcing a relationship too quickly, which could lead to ending the relationship just as quick.

Good luck!

"Should i be worried if my boyfriends ex still likes him, and they hung out today?"

Right now it's normal to be a little bit worried/jealous/confused but don't make assumptions. Accusing your boyfriend of things will just make him feel like you're being controlling and that's a major turnoff for guys. It will also just prove to his ex girlfriend that you're threatened by her which is never a good thing.

However, if this becomes a habit, and you feel like it's getting sketchy and you do have a reason to be mad then confront him about it. Do not automatically accuse him though, that will just show that you don't trust him. Unless you have proof or evidence then accuse all you want.

But for now, don't worry too much. There's a good chance they're just friends, even if she wants more than that.

"How Can I win him back and prove that we deserve each other "

Before you do anything , make sure you're really really ready to make this commitment again. If he has been talking to you all day chances are he still cares a lot about you too.

The best way to prove to someone you've changed and are willing to give it your all is to tell them, and make sure they understand that you mean it. Tell him how happy you are to be talking to him and how stupid you were to make the mistake of letting him go. It's not going to go completely back to normal like it was 7 months ago right away. It's going to take some time to build back your relationship and you might struggle with some stuff but if you both truly want it then it will work out.

So just keep an open mind, and make sure he realizes how sorry you are about what happened and how badly you want thinks to work out. The only way he's going to believe it is if he feels like he can fully trust you. So for now, just work on getting his trust back.

Good luck and I'm glad things are working out!

"Facebook poking a kid you danced with at Pulse for the whole night, even though you never talked before: Cute or Creepy ?"

Definitely cute. Most guys are too afraid to confront girls after something like pulse because they're afraid of being rejected. So facebook poking is the perfect thing to do to make a guy realize that you're interested. He'll be excited that you made the "first move" and guys love girls who take initiative. It's flirty, but to the point.

So yes, go ahead and poke him haha.

"Truthfully what do you think guys look for in a relationship?"

This is a tough question to answer because all guys are different.

Good guys look for someone to care about them, spend time with them, and just be their friend.

Then there are the bad guys out there who want nothing more than to hook up.

But don't assume that all guys are bad, there are plenty of good guys out there who are looking for the same things girls look for.

If you have any other questions let me knoww!

"Any ideas on cute/not awkward ways to ask someone to hang out on valentines day?"

That's adorable that you're in love with your best friend.

One way to ask them to hang out would be to write them a note telling them it's from their secret admirer, and set up a scavenger hunt or something and have you be waiting at the end. Or you could just hint in the note that you're the one asking.

Another way would be to include it in like a candy. M&M's and hershey kisses have this thing where you can put personalized messages on the candy.

Or you could make a sign or leave a note on their car, if they have one like they do in Laguna Beach ha.

You could give them a cute gift, like a goldfish or something random like that and have a message attached asking to hang out.

I'm not sure if any of those sound good to you but another tip is to look up "cute ways to ask people to hang out on valentines day" on google and there should be lots of ideas.

Good luck, hope it works out!

"What do I do if I'm still in love with my ex after 7 months have passed ?"

I believe that everything happens for a reason. So it may be hard now, and it may be hard for a long time, but you will eventually find someone new to move onto , or you two will work things out. I'm not going to tell you that you will get over them, because you might never but you will find someone else to move onto that you will care about just as much if not more.

So all I can say is try to move on, and meet new people. Getting over an ex is the hardest thing to do, but sometimes all it takes is to find someone new.

Remember that things will work out, and all it takes some people longer than others to move on or find someone new but it will happen at some point, so for now just stay positive and try your best to move on.

"Should I take initiative and ask him out or wait for him to do it ?"

If everything is going great and you have no doubts then yes go ahead and ask him out. Who says that girls can't ask guys out.

But if you are hesitant and don't want to be let down then maybe subtly bring up the topic of "being together" and see how he reacts. If he reacts well and seems to really like the idea then go for it, if not maybe you should rethink the situation.

Maybe he's scared of being rejected by you so he's waiting, so I say take initiative whether it's being straight up and asking , or taking small steps and hinting it.

"How can I tell if he wants to be friends with benefits or date me ?"

That's not weird at all, most girls go through this scenario at least once during high school.

There's no sure way to tell but from my experience these are the clues I've gotten

He doesn't want to be more than friends with benefits if:

-he's still talking or hooking up with other girls (especially if he tells you about it )

-he doesn't talk to you unless he wants to hang out

-he tells you not to tell anyone you guys hang out

-he doesn't say cute corny things guys usually say

-he treats you like "one of the guys"

and most obvious ... -he tells you that he doesn't want to be anything more than friends with benefits

but sometimes it's hard to tell what a guy wants in the beginning because most guys will automatically say "oh i don't want a girlfriend" because that's natural of a lot of high school guys to think, but if it seems like you two have chemistry keep going with it and you'll have a good chance of ending up in a relationship.

"How do I approach making a Junior more than a friend when I'm a sophomore?"

I can understand how being a sophomore and wanting to make your junior "friend" more than a friend would be intimidating, but honestly one year is not much difference. Chances are the fear you have of the person being older doesn't phase them at all. In fact, I bet they'll be impressed that you took the initiative even though you are younger.

So try to overcome the fact that they're a little bit older but at the end of the day, you're pretty much the same age, so don't stress over the age factor too much.

Also remember that confidence is attractive in a person, so if they feel like you're confident they'll feel better about the situation. But don't be too confident, that's just being cocky haha.

I'm sure you'll do great!

If the person has a boyfriend or girlfriend

"What should you do if the person you like, and maybe you've liked for a while has a new girlfriend or boyfriend?"

Well that's a tough situation because the right thing to do is to not interfere with someone who has a bf or gf, but that's also not the easiest thing to do. This is hard if you have liked the person for a while and they have a new boyfriend or girlfriend.

If the person already knows you like them, but they proceeded to date someone else, back off and find someone who appreciates you for you. If they don't know your feelings for them, stay friends with the person for now, and if or once they break up, let the person know how you feel and that you like them as more than a friend to see if they feel the same way.

It's not fair to anyone to try and break up a relationship even if it's not to intentionally hurt the other person , so be careful with the decision you make.

Young girls and older boys

This is definitely a problem at our school because a lot of the older boys see the incoming freshman girls as an easy target. These girls fall for boys a lot easier than they would for someone who is their age just because they are older and have that superiority. I don't think it's awful for people to date who are a few years apart but I do think that sometimes the senior to freshmen relationships are a little bit of a stretch.

I could be wrong though, in the real world people get married to all different age ranges so what difference should a high school relationship be?

"How do you feel about teens losing their virginity at such a young age? "

I think more and more teens are starting to lose their virginity at younger ages because it is advertised so much in today's tv shows, movies, and magazines and seems to be more accepted. I don't think this is a good thing for teens to be doing, especially at such a young age. They need to learn to have more respect for themselves and to make smarter decisions. I think the problem at our school is that people think of sex as something much more casual than it actually is. They seem to be doing it "just for fun" with people who mean nothing to them when it really is something that should be shared with someone special.

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-Dear Skipper

Thanks & Keep it Going!

Thanks for everyone who has asked some questions so far, I hope I helped!

Don't be shy to ask about anything , I love answering your questions.

You can leave comments under this or any of the other blogs and I'll respond as soon as possible in a post .

Thanks again and keep em' comin

-Dear Skipper

Unrequited love

From past experiences I would say to definitely keep trying. Never give up on something you feel strongly about.

I liked someone a lot at one point and time, but they made it clear they didn't feel the same way, 6 months later the person got to know me better and we ended up dating for 9 months.

If it hurts too much to keep getting rejected by this person, it might be better to move on and find someone who likes you for the person you are.

At the same time, if you feel like it's something that has potential, don't give up. It may just be that the person you love doesn't know you well enough or they may other people in their life taking up their time. So if it doesn't hurt too much, keep trying, because anything is possible.

"Should I wait for him?"

First things first, if he has a girlfriend and still says he likes you, chances are if you do end up dating him, he'll still "be liking" or "talking to" other girls. Is that the kind of boyfriend you think you deserve?

Don't sit around waiting for him. Keep your options open and talk to other guys, and definitely don't let him hold you back. But if you really think you two have chemistry, once him and his girlfriend break up go for it, but for now, don't sit around waiting for him. Keep him in your "back pocket" if you really think he's worth it.

I think that you deserve someone better though if he's telling you that "you'll have your chance". He should be waiting to have a chance with you, don't let him take all the control over the situation.

So I guess no, don't wait for him. If another opportunity comes around with a guy then take it. But like I said if there's really something special about him, then take a chance with him when he's single .

Hope I helped. If you have any more questions on the situation feel free to askk. ( :